Showing posts with label Life Goals. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Life Goals. Show all posts

November 05, 2019

Goals Vs Life

How times has it happened with you? You don't like something or are stuck. So you decide to make a grand change, or to improve something or to chase a goal. You pump yourself up, make a grand plan and swear to God that THIS time you are going to achieve your goal, or make a permanent change to your life.

And for a few days (or hours) everything goes fine as well, almost exactly as you had envisioned. But then... Life happens. And it always does. That's the only task of life. To happen. For shit to hit the fan. Life's geometry doesn't have straight lines or tangents. It's always made up of tiny (and sometimes huge) sine waves. Ups and Downs. Ebbs and Flow. Crest and Trough.

And that's where the problem arises. You think you will get the same variables everyday, the same cards that you played with on the first day you decided to make the change. But life keeps changing cards everyday (and sometimes doesn't even give you a hand).

That's what separates true achievers from bluffers. "When the going gets tough, the tough gets going" is cliched but true. And while we are talking of cliches : success only tastes sweet after tasting a few bitter pills of failures and setbacks.

I am currently following a schedule of writing at night. So when I sit to write, the emotions are different everyday, depending on how the day went. I haven't written for too many days, but already sometimes I feel clueless about what to write on. And other times while I start, I go blank thinking how to take the blog forward. What good do I have to say anyway?

Of course, writing for the heck of it doesn't make sense either. It's not an essay and I am not getting evaluated and given marks here. I don't want this blog to be another "dear diary" either. Ultimately, the goal is write something of value, if not for you then at least for me.

So, when I hit a road block, I have to remind myself that it won't be gravy always. If the goal is to write daily then I will have to grind sometimes, and not wuss out. It won't always be like this, but good days will come only when I survive these bad days.

The principles remain the same whatever be the goal. It's writing for me, it may be running or dieting or dancing for you. Ultimately it's all about settling in with a process and not allowing the wear and tear of everyday life to hinder your progress. If you want success you have to own the sacrifices too. You can't get one without the other. 

You can't be at your best every day either. Sometimes you have to work at your worst also. And those are the days that define you. If it was that easy everybody would have done it. 

I have written this short blog full of cliches, today. I don't know what tomorrow holds, but for now I can go to sleep knowing I have paid my dues for today. Time for you to pay yours?

PS : Reading and not giving your views ain't cool. 

November 02, 2019

Is Relativity Good for you? Don't think so.

Here is a theory : I think one can understand a person to a large extent just by going through his writings.

I believe I have a bunch of themes on which I like to write about. So, what I am writing about today, I have a feeling that I would have written about it at some point in past. Not sure, but just a hunch.

OK here goes... So, today I was on LinkedIn for sometime, a site which I mostly don't follow. I was going through the profiles of some of my peers and old friends etc. I was amazed looking into the profiles and designations of some of them. That made me jealous to some extent (if you never experienced this feeling, you are lying for sure).

But then I reminded myself of 2 things :

  • First, it's just a designation provided by an organization. My own experience tells me that having a big sounding designation doesn't make the work you do more impactful than others. You may be an analyst but might be making far more impact with your work than another high profile manager somewhere just going through the motions. 
  • And second, how does it matter if you may have a less sexier sounding designation or you may be working with a smaller organization, drawing probably half the salary than the other person? These matrices of designation or organization or income isn't that important. What's important is how much happy you are with the work you do and whether you think what you do matters. And that's irrespective of whether you are an entrepreneur or a worker, or a freelancer, or work at home mom. 

You may be drawing the highest salary amongst your friends, but there would definitely be someone known to you making far more money than you . You might be at the highest relative designation amongst your relatives but a friend's friend might be at a better position than you. And let's not forget, all these designations and roles are just made up jargon to give a rough idea about the nature of your work. It doesn't necessarily have to define you.

Here's what I believe in. You may be having a lesser salary than your friends, but if that's enough for and your life goals than there is no need for competition. You may be at a less attractive position in your organization but if you are satisfied with your work, then it's enough.

Everything need not be judged through the lens of relativity. What's enough for you, should be good enough.

And if you have to compulsively compare, then why not compare how much happy you are as compared to the other person? How much time do you have for your health, your family and your hobbies? How many of your life goals (which mostly won't be same as your peers) you are able to achieve or able to make progress on? How much do you feel "free", and not stuck in your life?

Ultimately it's all about happiness and peace and contentment. If you have that, then someone's LinkedIn profiles don't matter.

PS : Sometimes, you may find me 'preaching' in my blogs. I am aware of it, but remember I write these blogs as a reminder to myself than anybody else. It's a medium to collect and organize my random thoughts. If you get something out of it, then that's just gravy for me. Grateful :)

September 11, 2013

Life Goals

  • To be a Source of Happiness
  • To Follow my Fear
  • To be Independent
  • To be Authentic
  • To Experience as much of Life as possible